| Today's Subject: Are you kidding yourself? Some of | | | | who are more quiet at work. Because don't kid |
| you have heard me say recently, either in a seminar or | | | | yourself, sometimes people have weird |
| in our private coaching sessions together that we | | | | misconceptions about those reserved types. |
| (humans) "have an infinite capacity for self-deception." | | | | The stereotypes include: They aren't friendly, they don't |
| It's funny at first, depending on your sense of humor. | | | | like people, they're cold and unapproachable. Trust me |
| And then, it's a statement that makes you go | | | | on this one, if people are getting that vibe about you, |
| "Hmmmm." | | | | you are likely limited in career progression. |
| "What am I deceiving myself about?" If the word | | | | So, if you are more quiet and reserved on the job: |
| "deceiving" is too brutal, how about the phrase "kidding | | | | Start talking with more people at work. Then just start |
| yourself"? | | | | with eye contact and saying "good morning." Told you |
| Are you "kidding yourself" about what it takes to get | | | | these were tiny changes. More ideas for tiny changes, |
| what you want? What you are WORTHY of? | | | | when someone says something in a meeting, even if |
| Time for a "BFO" (blinding flash of the obvious). What | | | | you don't have anything else to say, say, "great idea" |
| got you where you are now, will NOT get you where | | | | (Obviously, only if you really think so!) When you walk |
| you want to go. | | | | by someone who is wearing something that looks |
| So, think about what kind of results you want. Let's | | | | good on them, if you're comfortable, say, "Nice blouse." |
| say you'd like to take your career to the next level, but | | | | See, baby steps, here. You will start to seem more |
| you're feeling, well stalled out, so to speak. | | | | friendly, open and approachable. |
| As long as you do nothing new, nothing new will | | | | And now, bigger steps for those of you ready to |
| happen. In fact, probably worse than nothing new will | | | | make something big happen: |
| happen, because your company does expect a | | | | Join and be an *active* member of your professional |
| minimal amount of learning new skills, processes, | | | | association. See if they have a mentorship program |
| procedures, yes? | | | | and get enrolled asap. Ask someone at work (who is |
| Ok, if you want big changes in your career, what will | | | | in the "inner circle") for a piece of quick, specific advice. |
| you need to do? Something big, right? Tiny changes | | | | Take a seminar, and return to work and share the |
| are just fine, and in some cases, I'm a HUGE fan of | | | | knowledge with others. AND, be sure to start your |
| tiny changes. Just know that those tiny changes will | | | | professional portfolio and give your boss monthly |
| take a LOT longer to yield you the results you want. | | | | updates. |
| Don't kid yourself about this. | | | | Advanced tips: When you're ready, consider a career |
| Here are a few ideas about some tiny changes you | | | | coach. Tuck this away for when the timing is right, I do |
| could make in your career progression and some | | | | professional and personal coaching, so if that's |
| bigger changes: | | | | something you think might help, just give me a shout |
| Tiny changes: These are especially helpful for people | | | | out, okay? |