Conflict Management Training - Understanding unreasonable customer demands

Understanding unreasonable customer demandsor when we have difficulty trying to decipher what the
Why not try this the next time you are in your bank'sperson wants (they might just have called for
branch:  Demand from the counter staff that theycompany!).  Firstly, be realistic and consider advice
write off your mortgage or your credit card bills. from those who work with people who, for example,
When staff politely respond that this is not possible,have a mental illness associated with disorders linked
accuse them of giving you a mortgage or credit youto personality, anxiety, mood, development, etc.  They
could not afford - so it's their fault! They might thenrecognise the difficulty of trying to manage and help
look at you incredulously and try again to turn yousomeone with such a condition over many months and
down politely.  If you stopped at that, all would be fineyears, so what can we expect to achieve in contact
for all concerned. However, what if you insisted andlasting a matter of minutes?
started to shout and swear at them? Staff may nowSometimes there is little or nothing you are going to
get a little bit stressed and hot under the collar.  Theachieve apart from managing yourself - how you
bottom line is, you are not going to get what you wantrespond and react.   Don't 'beat yourself up' because
but that does not really help the staff who have toyou should have done better, said something different
deal with your unreasonable demand.or made the customer happy.  This is the path to high
Many staff dealing with the public find themselves instress levels.
this position every day. Staff having to deal withStay calm and in control because it's easy to get
patients not happy with the care they have receivedfrustrated when faced with someone who is not
even after their case has been fully investigated,responding to what we see a reasonable. Getting
people wanting benefits they are not entitled to orfrustrated with the customer will only make matters
properties that are not available, and others wanting toworse.
build skyscrapers in their back garden.Slow up, take a bit more time and give the customer a
Customers have many reasons to make demandschance to speak. They may not be operating at the
that to us can seem so unreasonable.  They maysame mental speed as you so don't jump ahead
have real basic needs such as shelter, food, orthinking of possible solutions before you have
safety.  They may have a need to rage at the worldunderstood the 'problem'.  Keep listening and trying to
due to a perceived sense of injustice or unfairness.understand what they need and what they are feeling.
They may have a range of factors inhibitingNot everyone who makes unreasonable demands has
communication and understanding such as mentala mental illness. However, if for example, a customer
illness, learning difficulties, or are so 'full' with day to daytelephones every week or 3 times a day (which
problems that they are barely functioning.   It'shappens frequently in many offices serving the public),
important to consider that factors such as these maythey may have some 'issues' which may be beyond
lie at the heart of demands that seem reasonable toyour (or their) control.
the customer but totally unreasonable to us.So be flexible, calm, and respectful. Often that is a
So what can we do when faced with such demandslarge part of what the customer really wants.