Conflict Management Training - Managing unpredictable behaviour

Managing unpredictable behaviourhave promised to turn over a new leaf.
With normal everyday behaviour, we can predict aWhen you become aware that someone is behaving
great deal. We say 'hello' and we expect someone tounpredictably, think 'defensively', i.e. think more about
say 'hello' back. There are many social conventionsyourself and your safety than the job that you are
that all 'normally' behaving people comply with: if I entersupposed to be doing at the time; go on full alert
a waiting room in which you are already sitting, unless Iimmediately. If you are wrong or if things settle back to
know you I will sit with at least one empty chairnormal, you can then relax and give more attention to
between us; if we are strangers, then I don't expectthe job in hand.
you to come up and hug me; etc.Trust your intuition; it may be the only warning you'll get
Being able to predict gives us a certain measure ofthat something is not quite as it should be. It is certainly
control over situations; if we have a fair idea of whatdifficult to justify your concerns to a superior on the
is going to happen, then we feel more in control. Hereinbasis of intuition and we can be left feeling somewhat
lies our problem with unpredictable behaviour: we don'texposed to criticism as we try to explain that we did
feel in control. How can we negotiate with someone ifwhat we did because of a 'feeling'. Despite this
we can't get inside their head? Thus we becomedifficulty, our intuition should be trusted.
embarrassed, or uncomfortable, or unhappy, andIf ever there was a time to keep your distance, this is
ultimately we feel threatened.it. Be attentive, but stay out of harm's reach until you
If you anticipate that you are likely to meetare sure the situation is safe.
unpredictable behaviour, then you should certainly beBe sure you are aware of where the exit is, and that
taking whatever precautions you can - as a matter ofyou have as easy access to it as possible. Give some
policy, as often as possible. Thus it should be only inthought, prior to any incident occurring, to any
the most exceptional circumstances that staff shouldalternative exit, e.g. could a receptionist escape to
be untraceable and unsupportable to the extent thatsomewhere within the reception office by climbing
no one knows where they are, when they are likely toover the reception counter? Try it.
return, and what to do if they don't.Don't become too absorbed in your job. It may be
Although we know we should not stereotype, weimportant that you keep one eye on where people
would be foolish if we did not learn the lesson ofare, what they are doing, what potential weapons are
previous experience with a customer, a family, aabout, etc. Hence the advantage of a colleague's
neighbourhood or a block of flats. Never ignore anycompany: he or she can be monitoring the safety
customer's history of upsetting or dangerous behaviouraspects while you can be getting on with the job, or
on the grounds that it was a long time ago or that theyvice versa.