Favoritism in the Workplace--How to Avoid Even the Perception of It

I'm going to address a topic that isn't often discussedtechnology enterprises. High Tech companies,
formally by top management within a business,particularly startups, are built to move very fast. A big
certainly not out in the open. It's a major topic in HRaspect of that speed advantage is often the company
circles, I'm sure. It's also a major topic, in hushed tones,cultures, which tend to be open and collaborative. To
around the water cooler and during lunch amongignore this issue in a High Tech business is to invite a
friends. But regardless of how little formal attention itloss of productivity, or in extreme circumstances, an
gets, this is an important issue that exists in nearlyactual destruction of the company culture that you've
every workplace, large and small. While it's notworked hard to create. Resentment can build quickly
something that gets addressed in managementwhen favoritism is suspected. Resentment quickly
meetings or SEC filings, I'd venture to guess that it canbecomes bitterness, and bitterness leads to all sorts of
have as much affect on a company as most "highbehavior which creates problems for companies.
profile" management topics.Plummeting productivity, divisions between the
THE PROBLEMperceived "haves" and "have-nots", absenteeism and
The issue that I' m referring to is Workplace Favoritism.attrition. All of this has the potential to slow down or
If you've ever worked in an organization larger thaneven stop a fast-moving, but embryonic, High Tech
two people, I suspect that you've seen it. Favoritism isbusiness very quickly.
part of human nature. No two people interact similarlyPERCEPTION, NOT REALITY
to any other two, so it's impossible for all workplaceI want to emphasize that it's the PERCEPTION of
relationships to be "equal". It's only natural to gravitatefavoritism that does the damage. If there is actual
to people that you share common interests with, andfavoritism, you can argue that management is just
with whom you have an easy rapport. And of course,getting what they deserve. But I've seen proud
there's nothing wrong with any of this, on the surface.managers who think that since they're not actually
The problems surface when one of three distinctdoing anything wrong, that should be enough--people
things ocurr:will recognize it. They may also feel that they are too
1. When a good rapport and shared interests lead to abusy worrying about "real" business problems that are
PERCEPTION that an employee is getting favoredcritical to the business in the near term, to be
treatment from a managerconcerned with such "soft"issues. They'll let HR worry
2. When a manager ACTUALLY PROVIDES unfairabout such things. Or since they're not actually guilty,
preferential treatment for one employee at thethey believe that they just don't need to defend
expense of othersthemselves further. Lastly, they might think that since
3. Nepotism, the granddaddy of workplace favoritismthey're the "all powerful" boss, they can do what they
So you might be thinking, hey, this is pretty subjectivewant, and no one will challenge their decisions.
stuff. There are many people in the workplace whoIn nearly all cases, no matter the justification, the
are extremely sensitive, and are looking around everycompanies of managers who ignore perceptions of
corner for perceived slights and injustices. Women canfavoritism will suffer as a result of the oversight.
be suspicious that they're being shut out of participationThis is a pretty confusing topic, with a lot of room for
in the best projects, or advancement, because of themisperception on both the management and employee
"Old Boys Club"--oftentimes with good reason,sides. But it's extremely important for management to
unfortunately. There are also many under-performersdirectly address the issue head-on. So what's a
who look at other's relationships, in an attempt tomanager to do to avoid the PERCEPTION of
convince themselves that it's something other thanfavoritism, which as discussed above, can be just as
their own shortcomings that is preventing them fromdamaging as actual favoritism?
getting ahead.COMMON SENSE APPROACH
WHAT DEFINES FAVORITISM?I propose that it's not hard to take a common sense
I don't believe that you can, or should, treat everyoneapproach to favoritism. Here are the rules I suggest
the same. I'm not an advocate of communism. Peoplemanagement try to live by:
who perform well should be rewarded. And a single1.Do everything within your power to insure that
management style doesn't work equally well with alladvancement, perks and compensation are based
employees. Some people need more attention to fulfillstrictly upon objective performance measures
their potential, while others excel with less attention and2.Strive to treat everyone fairly, if not necessarily the
more autonomy. And speaking strictly about nepotism,same
just because an employee is related to someone in a3.Put yourself in your employee's shoes--think back to
position of power, doesn't insure they are lazy orbefore you were a manager, and evaluate whether
incompetent.you might feel a particular action feels like favoritism
So when does smart, individualized management of4.Create an environment where any employee feels
employees cross the line into unfair favoritism?comfortable discussing a perceived injustice with
It crosses the line when an employee receives extramanagement--this enables managers to nip
benefits that are perceived to result from a "specialmisconceptions in the bud
relationship" rather than from excelling in job5.Practice an open door policy--this also contributes to
performance.a culture of trust, which can sooth ruffled feathers
The actions in question can be pretty subtle, and thebefore hurt feelings can fester and turn a situation far
employees who feel slighted might be very good atmore sour
hiding their true feelings. So it's also very easy for a6.Manage potential perceptions of favoritism
manager to think there's no real problem, and often beproactively--it's much easier to prevent the perception
totally oblivious to perceptions of favoritism.up front, than it is to "put out the fire" once it's raging
But it is extremely important for management to be7.If at all possible, avoid family relationships within the
hyper-sensitive to this issue. While this is a universalworkplace.
business issue, I feel it is particularly important to high