The Deadly Impact of the Wrong Question

"Questions drive our communication"- In two sentences can you explain how you ensured
Joseph O'Connor and John Seymouryour team achieved all their goals, and maintained a
Authors of Neuro-linguistic programming skills forhigh level of job satisfaction?
managers trainers and communicatorsNow that you have some information about their level
Why ask questions? Questions are asked to:of knowledge in an area of expertise, you need to ask
1. Arouse interest,the candidate to "walk you through" the behaviors they
2. Focus attentionactually undertook to ensure their team achieved their
3. Encourage thinkinggoals. It is these behaviors that they are most likely to
4. Assess the level of understandinguse again if employed in your company. Behavioural
5. To answer another question?scientists suggest that 88% of a person's behaviors
How can I ask a question so that people will feel like Iare set in place for life, by the time they get to twenty
am on their side? The answer is to ask loadedyears old. If you can spot a pattern of previously
Questions. This is a question that leads people to aemitted behaviors, then unless they are undergoing
particular conclusion which you hope will ensure theysome significant personal development, they are very
side with you, (You appeal to common values) forlikely to revert to those behaviors.
example:The deadly impact of the wrong questions is to not be
- Don't you think all manager's should have excellentable to predict the future behaviour of the candidate,
interpersonal and team working skills?and whether they will be successful in your
Okay, they now feel like I am on their side, how do Iorganisation.
get them to focus on the issue?"The most serious mistakes are not being made as a
The answer is to ask framing questions. This is whenresult of wrong answers.
you set parameters for the question in terms of time,The truly dangerous thing is asking the wrong
or purpose. For example:question".